the two eternal truths of discussions about trigger warnings:
- there are good arguments against trigger warnings
- no one will ever make those arguments, instead choosing to explore such burning issues as “is warning people before you force them to sit through a graphic depiction of rape and not penalizing them for leaving CENSORSHIP?” and “but what if accommodating mental illnesses just makes people more mentally ill?” and “I think you are just being TOO SENSITIVE”
My poorly-collected thoughts about trigger warnings:
• I’m trying to move to saying “content warning” or just “XYZ below” because the important part is “hey, there is some stuff coming that you may not want to read,” and letting people make that choice. It doesn’t have to be technically a trigger for them to choose not to.
• I have very idiosyncratic triggers and I don’t really expect people to warn for them. I’m not trying to make a “I suffer so everyone should” argument here, but it’s something I reflect on in these discussions—a lot of triggers aren’t obvious things like violence and bigotry but hopelessly specific things like gumballs or men who are going bald in a particular way. And there’s really no way to universally warn for those.
• Although it really shouldn’t be this way (i.e., gumballs), “trigger warning for X” is often used to convey that X is bad, which feels like an appropriation and is also very annoying when it’s being used to pass judgement instead of out of actual consideration.
• Not everyone experiences mental illness symptoms equally so “this is what a real trigger is like, if you it doesn’t make you acutely ill for hours then it’s just a dislike” posts kind of bother me. ”You must be more mentally ill than this line” policing is not an okay response to appropriation.
• ”Real life doesn’t have trigger warnings” arguments are terrible because… that’s like saying “it’s cold outdoors, therefore it doesn’t matter if our house has heat.”• I don’t really have a good wrap-up here, except that I think it’s generally a good idea to let people know if something likely to be upsetting is coming up, and whether you call that “trigger warning” or not is… clearly complicated.
This song makes me want to step on a thousand shirtless men while wearing high heels
The musical equivalent of red lipstick.
the saga of hugh dancy’s tacky scarves continue
i hate him so much
Before listening to the Nerdist Podcast with Jaimie Alexander today, I knew that she played Sif in Thor, which was basically enough to make me like her. After listening to the podcast, I now know that:
She collects knives and throws them.
She started a girls wrestling team at her high school in Texas despite the administration being sexist jackholes.
That team went on to compete at state and I think nationals a couple of times.
She could have gone to college on a wrestling scholarship.
She eats a shitload because she works out all the time.
She has, in the past, spite-ate at meals with her former agents just to piss them off in retaliation for making comments on her body size, eating ALL THE CAKE.
She likes pizza.
She works with girls and young women to improve their body image by giving talks and mentorship.
When talks and mentorship isn’t enough she takes them to the gym and teaches them to appreciate their bodies through the physical challenges they can overcome.
She goes to children’s hospitals dressed as Sif to hang out with sick kids.
She has a filthy sense of humor.
She wore leather pants to record the podcast.
So basically, I just want to hang out with her, watch an action movie, eat an entire pizza together and then go see a burlesque show. We should be best friends.
Another chapter in the saga of: “Marvel actors who are totally their characters”
stOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THAT STUPID 35 ANNOYING THINGS GIRLS DO VIDEO IT IS A PARODY VIDEO SHUT UP SHUT UP I get that is is dumb and unnecessary and a bad joke but jesus fucking christ why don’t any of you actually check your facts before readily believing some hate-mongering tumblr user with a vague out-of-context screenshot
One of the reasons is just ‘Miguel’ and people still think it’s real, which confuses me
But I think it’s very telling that, putting Miguel to one side for a moment, the other things said in the video are so similar to things that women actually hear on a daily basis that many people were duped into falsely believing the veracity of the video. There’s an element of gullibility, sure - some people will genuinely believe anything they read on the Internet if they’re told it’s true, which is why you see so many Onion articles floating around being touted as news rather than satire - but there’s also an element of genuine relevant precedence.
It’s understandable that people would believe that the video was real, even the more absurd parts (‘when they remember???’) because it’s all framed in things we’ve heard before. We’ve all been told that we shouldn’t wear too much makeup but we shouldn’t go bare faced either. We’ve all been told that menstruation is a weakness. We’ve all heard about how we have an obligation to wear what men want to see. Sadly, I’m not sure it counts as successful satire when a large part of it is literally just quoting real things people frequently say.
Still, come on, people. Fact check before you reblog. It takes two minutes and it’ll make you feel a lot better. It’ll at least reassure you that sometimes men try and call each other out on this sort of shit, even if it does ultimately backfire hideously due to a poor understanding of satire.
- drink every time someone asks ‘but why do you NEED a day?’
take a shot every time someone says ‘but what about men?’
- pass your drink to the person on your left every time someone makes a neckbeard joke to try and be provocative
- throw your drink in the face of anyone who makes a castration joke for the same reason
- slip arsenic into the drink of anyone who says ‘but misandry isn’t real’ or ‘men don’t experience sexism’
- drink. Just drink. Drink to forget it all.
- wake up with an angry, raging hangover of injustice and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Not about the hangover, although water will help. Shout at the next person who demeans you for your gender. Ask them to explain exactly what makes a castration joke funny. Stop accepting the injustices heaped upon you every day, and not just on International Men’s Day.
Yo listen I’m really happy that you decided to take my post about International Women’s Day and ‘invert’ it, but the problem is that gender inversion doesn’t work because these are false parallels. Also, seriously? You hijack it on International Women’s Day? Bad show. That just makes you look petty and undermines any point you might have made. And final point; please don’t put the source for your post as my blog. I don’t want people thinking I’m a moron who makes straw man arguments (I never implied that males didn’t have problems, so you hijacking my post in order to say BUT MEN doesn’t really have much point to it). I really don’t appreciate that.
You say that the purpose of your blog is to ‘invert gender’ in posts such as mine in order to convey the hypocrisy of the original posts, but as I previously mentioned, it doesn’t work because the problems faced by men and women are so different. Let’s take my point about rape jokes, which you amended to ‘castration jokes’ in order to try and show how men are affected by the same sort of problem. The thing about rape jokes is that they are totally commonplace. Have you heard the one about the cricket society who printed t-shirts saying ‘casual rape’ and wore them on a social? Or perhaps the one where a rugby society played that hilarious party game ‘it’s not rape if…’? Or the comedian who made a rape joke and then, when a woman protested, told her it would be ‘funny if she got raped’? Heck, if you Google ‘rape joke’, you get 53,600,000 results. A search for ‘castration joke’ yields only 314,000. Still too many for such a vulgar attempt at humour, but I think it’s pretty clear that the ‘rape joke’ has made more of an impact in comedy circles.
So, if you want to make a real point about gender inequality, don’t just lech on the valid points I’ve made and try and twist them to fit male oppression. Instead, focus on genuine points of male inequality. How about the pressure on males to conform to a certain masculine stereotype? That’s a real societal issue. Or perhaps the unlikelihood of a male gaining full custody over their child in a divorce case? That’s another real problem.
Inequality doesn’t work both ways. Different genders suffer for different reasons, and your blog really doesn’t work in the way you think it does. Sorry.
"Periods": You are the direct result of the process that causes periods. Don’t worry, I’m sure your mum regrets it, too.
Tell me again, what did you say about representation not being important?
This gifset goes perfectly with an article I just read. This is why media representation is so important. Because it brainwashes our children to not even see themselves in their OWN stories.
Just read Adichie’s new novel Americanah, which I highly recommend. Great book, and not too much weather in it.